Not sure what you want to know. We always pick couples night where single men are not allow and people are way more respectful. Or at least find a club with couples only area. Set a rule that you both comfortable with and have fun.
My first time happened at a Vegas swingers club, I had so much fun, I had wet dreams for weeks. Husband really enjoy how I response to the new experience and we started visiting more swingers clubs. Husband also started setting up massages, hotel meets... Etc. Beware, One can really get addicted!